Will Things Ever Get Easier for the 3/5 Profile?
By Alice Stark
“3/5 emo generator here, I want to hear about your experiences with this profile line. I tell you what this has been a painful life. It feels tough with line 3 being the one who’s always making “mistakes”. I used to feel so left behind because of it. As of lately I’ve been releasing myself from the perceptions of others and noticed that I began accessing the power of line 5. I’m finally getting in a rhythm of sharing my experiences in a universal way. I do this by writing on substack and speaking about what I enjoy which is qigong (and all things energy). Making all these “mistakes” have loosened my tough skin and now I feel more receptive to the beauty this line has to offer.
I feel like my tough skin is loosened and I understand the beauty of this profile more and more.”
- Source: Human Design Subreddit
As a 3/5 Sacral Manifesting Generator, I have felt the energy of the 3 and 5 lines acutely and unconsciously my whole life. It is only once I discovered my Human Design that I started to understand them consciously. I felt incredibly validating in that AHA moment and I started understanding how to use this incredibly powerful energy to my advantage
The 3rd Line
The 3rd line is called the Line of the Explorer or Experimenter. Both characterizations ring incredibly true to me given my life’s path and story:
- I was born in Communist Bulgaria and by the age of 13, I had lived in 5 Countries and had to learn 6 Languages: Bulgarian, Armenian, French, Russian, English and Spanish – in that order. Since I have traveled to more than 40 countries, often adventuring alone, I became a digital nomad in 2021 and for the last 3 years I have split my time between Canada and Latin America. That Spanish I had to learn in an International high school came in incredibly handy in Latin America!
- I changed career paths 6 times (Financial Analyst, IT Project Manager, Business Intelligence Analyst, Customer Success Manager, startup CEO, and now Business Coach).
- I launched my own business twice in search of alignment with my Values and Purpose – first a cannabis business and now as a business coaching and writing.
- I pursued spirituality obsessively to understand the nature of the universe and rid myself of my conditioning and fears through diverse psychedelic experiences in intentional and guided settings.
- I became a Best-Selling Author within six months of starting to write which is finally me being in tune with my 3 line and making peace with it. I am currently writing my memoire as a self-exploration guide which will be followed by a fantasy novel inspired in part by Human Design and the Rave age coming post 2027.
Are you exhausted yet reading about this high-level summary of a meandering explorer/experimenter life?
Going through so much change at an early age made for a lonely and difficult childhood which I resented and wore like a chip on my shoulder for most of my life. I was bitter that unlike most “normal” people I didn’t have a continuity of friends since childhood. I had to start over and over and over again, making new friends, learning new languages and adapting to new cultures and dynamics. Once we immigrated to Canada, I didn’t feel like I belonged either to Canada or Bulgaria, I was somewhere in between – a synthesis of experiences, a whole greater than its parts.
On the Human Design subreddit, which is a great community and support group for me, the 3rd line experience is often accompanied by exhaustion and depression.
We wonder…
- When will this roller coaster of experimentation finally end?
- When can I finally rest?
- Will things ever get easier?
The answer is Yes and No; how you see it is entirely up to the mindset you choose to adopt.
What changed for me to make peace with the 3rd line and start embracing its energy was the deconditioning process from the linear capitalist rat race. Instead I welcomed the natural cyclicality of history and nature. History is one of my great loves and having read it voraciously since I was a lonely child reminded me that just like the seasons change and circle back, our experiences will cycle and repeat themselves until we learn the lessons that are meant for us.
More importantly, we have lost touch with the rituals that guided our ancestors’ lives. If we took the time intentionally to take stock of our blessings and let go of that which doesn’t serve us, we would realize that along the way, what seemed like challenges and traumas can be transmuted into blessings and super powers – the other side of the proverbial coin – that we are meant to share with others so they don’t have to go through the same suffering we have.
Some of my super powers include above average resilience and adaptability to change, confidence that I can do anything I set my mind to, 6 languages which make me a world citizen who can seamlessly travel and relate to diverse cultures, immense privilege to have known this earth and the infinite facets of its beauty, and the ability to have compassion for people from all walks of life because I have been there. Along the way, I shed my victim mindset and obsession with reaching linear goals created by my extremely competitive mind – my greatest obstacle.
- Instead I embraced the journey and stopped judging myself by external measures of success.
- The only competition I partake in is with myself striving to become my most glorious future self.
- The only person I can disappoint is my inner child.
I made healing and listening to my inner child my main priority. I shed fear after fear after fear (an ongoing process) and made peace with my shadow – my conditioned armor and my primary source of self sabotage – my Not Self. I replaced the scarcity mindset of capitalism with the infinite compassion and wisdom of the universe and the divine feminine within that I had repressed. The current me has so much compassion for the old me on the edge of depression and for all of us who think that we are not enough just as we are.
I am full, so full, of my real authentic self that I can’t imagine anyone or anything mattering more to me than my joy and my peace.
I feel a deep pull in my sacral to share my experiences and my privilege with others who grapple with self-doubt so I can lighten their load the way I wish someone had lightened mine. I strive to pay it forward. I do this through the books I am working on, my blog, on the Human Design subreddit, and through in person encounters which the digital nomad life is ripe with. For me this is only the beginning. I see myself speaking and giving TED type talks to specifically empower women to build their most purpose filled lives and most self-aligned businesses.
The process of growth and transformation never ends, that is the reality of all organic life, and once you embrace its creativity, you wouldn’t want it any other way. I know I would be bored if things were easy and static. In fact when I get too comfortable, it’s usually a sign for me to shake things up – like travel across the world and change my environment or learn something new.
As line 3s, evolution is our birthright and our future. We are forever works in progress and that is the beauty of our karma once we stop fighting it.
The 5th Line
More than my 3rd line, I would say that my experience with the 5th line has been especially visceral, traumatic, and challenging. The 5th line is called the Heretic. I don’t really like this name, I don’t think it really reflects its energy. I would call it the Unintentional Savior line because its energy acts like a “karmic mirror” for me, showing the people projecting onto us what they need to work on in themselves. The 5th line carries the most transpersonal karma in the hexagram – it’s the Pluto energy in astrology. We 5th liners are heavily projected upon to be the saviors. People sense that we can help them and project on us this savior complex which we adopt as our Not Self by taking on helping when it actually detracts from our purpose. As a result, our best intentions can backfire and our reputation can suffer.
As a 5th line, I have triggered people my whole life with my simple existence. My family, my friends, and complete strangers who come into contact with my 5th line energy react strongly to it by either latching onto me as a savior or painting me as the bad guy who is just too much for them and should learn her place. It is the irony of the 5th line that you will have more impact with strangers than your close circle which will never see your expertise and your intentions clearly. It will be all about them and how you mirror back to them.
Trying to own and clean up my 5th line karma has been a big theme of the last 5 years for me. This process has principally revolved around shedding one sided relationships where I was always the expected savior. I always had to be the strong one managing others’ insecurities and projections. Because of all the change coming from my 3rd line, I had evolved this persona of strength and badassery, I could adapt to or do anything I set my mind to independently. But by 40 I no longer wanted to be strong for others. I wanted to be vulnerable and safe with the people who were closest to me instead of just holding a safe space for them and receiving their low density energy.
Hurt people hurt people.
This meant letting go of a lot of long time friends who refused to evolve with me and whose victim energy was now holding me back from becoming the version of myself that was waiting for me on the other side – my real Self. It was a heartbreaking process, I shed many tears over the years. I had to grieve and let go to make space for what was meant for me. This process was harder than learning 6 languages. I was incredibly disappointed that all the people I thought would be there for me well into my old age turned out to just be around as long as I could mirror them back to themselves and refused to evolve with me.
As for triggering people, I learned with time that their discomfort had nothing to do with me. I am just a mirror and they can see or project whatever they wish. There is nothing I can do to help them unless they decide to help themselves. Then, I would be happy to hold space for them and share my learnings and energy in a positive and constructive way. I finally internalized that you can’t force people to heal but once they are ready to grow and change, they are ready to receive your energy and use it synergistically. When I share with people in this state – specifically strangers – I see immediately the results of my energy transfer and it gives me immense satisfaction and I know that I am using my sacral energy to its fullest potential. This is why I am a coach.
In conclusion, the best philosophy to adopt with the 3/5 profile is to learn to enjoy the process and not judge yourself. Create a safe space within yourself to feel everything, let the emotions go through you and then let them go intentionally. It is so incredibly important to learn to trust and listen to your body’s design and its wisdom. Silence the mind – that friend and foe that forever is comparing you to others – and visualize the most aligned version of yourself that is living your most purpose filled authentic life. This is the quantum reality that you want to manifest out of all the possibilities of the matrix.
Then make sure to adopt a positive talk track with yourself. This has always been one of my superpowers. I talk to myself in the 3rd person all the time. I am my own best friend, therapist and cheerleader. I still have fears coming up through the mind, but when they do, I am conscious of them and I can negate them and override them with an intentional positive talk track.
As my own best friend, no one can hold more compassion and love for me than I do having gone through the trials and tribulations of the 3/5 profile. I am so incredibly proud of my path and the person I have become.
Now all I want is to share my journey with as many people as I can reach which is my Human Design purpose!
About me: Alice Stark is a world citizen and a catalyst for change. Since the age of 2, Alice grew up traveling around the world, having learned 6 languages and lived in 5 countries by the age of 15. As a result, Alice had to adapt to change constantly and quickly and she learned first hand of the resilience and diversity of the human experience. In tune with her Evolutionary Explorer line Alice has reinvented her career 4 times and has started her business twice, always in search for alignment with her purpose. As a result, Alice has always been passionate about learning and synthesizing wisdom from different sources, overcoming fear and not settling for anything less than her most authentic life. Alice especially resonates with the transformative message of Human Design that we start awakening to our purpose in our midlife. Alice feels extremely privileged to have discovered Human Design as part of her journey. As part of her path, Alice Stark is also a best-selling author and speaker who crafts stories that inspire courage and instill a desire for growth and transformation. Alice is here to remind us that we are all part of the human experience and that we are not alone but we are each unique.