Relationships are a fundamental building block of human life. We are born into a relationship and we grow and develop through our relationships. As 7-centered humans we have entered into relationships for a variety of reasons: to meet physical needs, for emotional support, to find a companion to our daily living, to have someone to discuss ideas, someone to share our personal growth with, to have someone to love, to develop trust that deepens over time, and for a sense of security, i.e. for survival.
At a mechanical level, any time another person enters our aura, we are in a mutual condition of relating. We take in our experience of the other through our openness. How we take them in is shaped by our definition, but it is in our openness that we experience what we are not. Starting with our very first experiences of relating, the mind begins to interpret our openness: the mind turns it into a story of what is broken, missing, or needs to be compensated for, overcome or fulfilled by others. Instead of seeing the conditioning patterns with awareness, we spend a lifetime looking for relationships to fix what was never broken.
Relationships in the not-self world are often a self-fulfilling prophecy of our conditioned self – or an attempt to compensate for or overcome our internal image of our conditioned self. This is compounded by the other person in the relationship engaged in their own self-fulfilling prophecy or attempts to compensate. Most relationships are conditioned selves living out their conditioning – and finding the perfect person to reinforce and activate conditioning patterns. When we begin to unravel our conditioned patterns of relationships, we begin to discover that relating has been taking place all along – but without our conscious awareness.
As we move deeper into our experience as 9-centered beings living our uniqueness, we become more and more aware of living our unique frequency; realizing what it is to be alive here and now in our unique vehicle of body/mind, to be the passenger aware of life as an experience. As we move deeper into our experiment, how we relate with the other begins to shift as well. If we are whole and complete as we are, then what is relating? And how does our relating shift from mutual conditioning and compensation to two individuals relating?
From Relationships to Relating – an Experiential Workshop
• 6 Weeks, 1 ½ hr. Classes
• Date/Time: Fridays, Sept 18 through Oct 23, 19 GMT
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In this course, we will help you explore your relating mechanics. How do you take in the other? What are the tendencies that your conditioning tends to seek out in the other? What kind of internalized conditioning stories are you identified with? Does your relating reinforce this identification? How do you relate as your true self? What is your experience of relating?
Dharmen and Leela were in a relationship for 13 years prior to meeting Human Design. They have been experimenting with Human Design for 16 years, and bring the depth of their experience of relating to this course.